Call Me Xander

There is no surefire way to get over an ex boyfriend / girlfriend. When you break up, especially after being together for a long time, it is like losing a part of yourself. Do not fear though - it is not losing a part of yourself, it is just “like” losing a part of yourself. There are a common set of 5 stages of grief that people go through during a breakup:   Denial At this point, you cant believe what has happened and you are most likely overwhelmed by shock - half expecting things to go back to “normal”. Anger / Resentment This is when it gets nasty & you might be inclined to do or say things that you will regret to the other person. You blame the other person for causing the situation or wasting years of your life, or being so difficult. In many ways those things are necessary because essentially fighting with each other and causing hurt makes the break up easier to comprehend for each person. Bargaining Im not quite sure that this is next after anger.

 Ang pag-ibig ay hindi lang tungkol sa pagtuklas ng ka-swak mo, kundi kung pano makabuo ng isang masaya at mabuting relasyon. Hindi ito tungkol sa kung gaano mo kamahal ang isang tao, kundi kung paano mo payabungin at itaguyod ang inyong pag-iibigan hanggang sa katapusan. Ang relasyon ay dapat masaya, may pagmamahal, pag-aalaga, habang tumatagal ay mas lalong tumitibay, at higit sa lahat positibo. Ang pagmamahal sa isang relasyon ay dapat nagdudulot ng ngiti at kinang sa buhay. Simula sa araw na ito, piliin mong i-kontrol ng maayos ang relasyon ng iyong kapareha para sa  masayang pagsasama. Maari mong tingnan ang listahan sa ibaba at sundin kung sa tingin mo ay nararapat para sa inyo. I. Tandaan na ang bawat Tao at Relasyon ay magkaiba.  Kadalasan nabibihag ang ating puso ng isang tao kapag ang sa tingin natin ay kakaiba siya sa lahat. Yung tipong walang kapareha. Natatangi. Hindi tayo perpekto para sa lahat. Perpekto lang tayo dun sa mga taong nagbigay sa atin ng halaga

"This is the answer to my hardships," Gerry declared. Tightly holding the rusty knife in his right hand, Gerry slowly sliced his wrist moving it back and forth as blood slowly dropped out while tears started to fall. He was enjoying the pain and agony as he remembered every adversity he had.  "This feeling is much better than seeing myself succumb to every transgression," He said. "Why are you wasting your life?" A voice came out of nowhere. "Why do you care?" Gerry put the knife down while the blood continued to flow from his wrist. "I care because I am you. Look inside your heart. I am here. Go back to your senses and stop acting like an uneducated man. You are stronger than that. Trust me, things will be better again soon." Gerry couldn't feel anything anymore. He's standing in front of the window looking at a distance, while blood continue to drip from his wrist down to his fingertips. Another life was wasted.

I had a dinner with a very close friend of mine who experienced a failed relationship. I know how it feels to get hurt and the hard part is on how to let go and move on. Being hurt is not as hard as moving on and letting go. It takes time for someone to forget and just leave everything behind specially if everything you see reminds you of the person. Complete healing takes time. The relationship they had with this person lasted for how many years. I really can't remember how long but they had a on-off relationship. The first time they had a fight and called it quits was because she found out that the person is already committed to someone else. The guy promise to broke up with that person but found herself alone in agony. Sad thing is, because of out of love she still holds on to that promise that they will be together again. And now, finally, she is really willing to let go and move on. Total damage because of being broken hearted can be minimize if in the first place

Adik sayo - Not the song! Dahil sa wala akong trabaho ng mahigit isang buwan na, ay ninais ko na manatili muna sa aking tahanan at magpahinga. Hmm.. Bawi na rin ito sa ilang buwang stress sa dating trabaho. At dahil sa sobrang board ako eh wala akong ibang mapaglibangan kundi ang aking cellphone. Kalikot. Kalikot. Kalikot. Hanggang sa panasin ko ang isang icon. TING! Oo yan ang icon na sinasabi ko. Para saan yan? Hmm. I think you know it already. Ang instagram ang isang application. Kung may smartphones ka (iPhone, iPad, iPod touch or Androi phone) pwede mo itong idownload para malaman mo. Joke! Ang instagram ay isang apps na pwede kang mag share ng mga larawan tapos edit mo lang at lagyan ng filters.. and then pwede mo itong i-share sa ibat-ibang networking sites gaya ng facebook, twitter, foursquare, tumblr at kung anong ka ek-ekan pa. I check nyo na lang. Adik ako sa instagram. Adik lang sa pag filter ng mga pictures at mas lalong nakaka-adik kapag may nagka

Urgh! Am I really back in blogging? Yes.. I finally found my way back and start doing what I really love. It has been how many months that I didn't do this. I honestly don't know what happened but I just came to a point that I got tired in blogging. It actually eats up my time. Time that I should spend in going out and enjoy the real world. But look at me, I'm blogging again and doing what I really like and love. Naks! Just a little update about myself. Things that happened in my life while I am away from blogging.  I am jobless. Again! I am now 31 years old. Wahahaha I had my first travel outside the country in Thailand. Travelled to Boracay. Experience the Underground River in Puerto Princesa, Palawan So there, yun na lang muna. I promise to post and update this blog the best I can. :)