Call Me Xander

We found love in a hopeless place right? So the story below is a very unusual story about a girl and a boy hanging in a tenter (Sampayan in Tagalog).  Let's just name the lovers Shing and Julius. The ever sweet lovers. THE LOVERS : Shing (Orange Clip) and Julius (Maroon Clip) Shing and Julius were together for over three years now. They promise to love each other till death separate them apart. One day, Shing met Rodney (Gray clip). Equally handsome as Julius but more mature about everything. Shing and Rodney became friends and in a short period of time, something blossomed between them. An unexpected love. THIRD PARTY Few more months and so Shing finally felt love over Rodney. She thinks Rodney is the right guy for her. So she finally confronted Julius and tell her the truth. And so Julius, was devastated and broken. He decided to let her go as she wanted Shing to be happy. He was crying over the lost of her beloved Shing but beyond the hurt he was curious a...

Yes! That's the famous line noong panahon ni Marcos...yung time na pinatalsik na siya ni Cory. But I won't talk anything about what happened many years ago. It's all in the past. Sabi nga ng nakararami, lets move on and move forward. Nangyari na ang nangyari kaya wag na natin balikan. Gets? Pero bakit karamihan sa atin ay mas gustong balikan ang nakaraan kesa puntahan ang bukas. Mas marami ang gusto na manatili na lang sa alaala ng kahapon kesa salubungin ang magandang umaga. At mas marami sa atin ang mas gustong balikan ang nakaraan kahit nasasaktan kesa harapin ang bukas na puno ng pag-asa.  Wag na tayong lumayo, kadalasan nangyayari ito kapag ang isang tao ay umiibig. Diba kapag mahal na mahal natin ang isang tao ayaw natin mawalay sa kaniya. Kapag sa tingin mo ay sa kanya naikot ang mundo mo ay ayaw mo nang kumawala sa sumpa na dulot ng pagmamahal ng sobra. Ang tanong eh, kailangan ba talaga sa kanya umikot ang mundo mo? Pano na ang mundo kung saan ikaw ay...

Kung ang bigat ng mundo ay 5.972E24 kg at idagdag mo pa ang bigat ng mga tao na nakatira dito, mga nasa 316 million tons ang bigat ng lahat ng adults sa mundo o 633 billion pounds.  Yung 16.5 millions tons ay mga overweight, ayun sa World Health Organization. Ngayon, idagdag mo pa ang bigat ng yung loob dahil sa problema na sa tingin mo ay nagpapahirap sayo at dahil sa bigat ng loob mo ay dinamay mo pa ang ibang tao... Kaya mo pa kayang pasanin ang mundo? Well, unang-una... GINUSTO MO YAN! Bawat isa sa atin ay may kinakaharap na problema. Ikaw, ako, kahit sinong nilalang ay may inisip at hinaharap na suliranin. Kahit pa yung asong nasa kalye ay namomroblema sa kung ano ang kakainin niya. Kaya nga siguro may asong baliw o ulol dahil sa nawalan na sila ng ulirat sa dami ng problema nila.  NGUNIT, nasa sayo din yan kung hahayaan mo lang na pasanin mo ang daigdig na puno ng problema. Hindi ito nauubos... Pero ang pasensya at lakas ng tao kunting kunti l...

          Marami sa atin ang naghangad na magkaroon ng tunay na kaibigan. Maliban sa pamilya ang mga kaibigan ang isa sa mga tinatakbuhan ng karamihan sa atin sa tuwing magkakaron tayo ng problema. Sila yung mga taong matatawag natin na pangalawang pamilya o di kaya ay mga kapatid natin sa ibang ama/ina. Gaya ko marami ng dumaan sa buhay ko na tinawag kong tapat na kaibigan. Mangilan-ngilan na din ang nagsabi na kabigan nila ako, ganun din ako sa kanila. Madali akong magtiwala sa isang tao lalong lalo na kung naramdaman ko ang integridad o katapatan. Ilang beses na dni akong nasaktan dahil sa sobrang tiwala na binigay ko sa isang "kaibigan" ngunit sa bandang huli ay nagiging parte lang sila ng aking nakaraan at hindi ang hinaharap. Yung parang dumaan lang sila sa buhay ko para magbigay kulay at maging bahagi nito sa maikling panahon. Nangangarap tayo na may isa o dalawang tao tayong makakasama sa kahit anong pagdaanan natin sa buhay malib...

Pano na lang kaya ang mundo kapag walang love? Mahirap noh? Siguro kung walang pag-ibig sa mundo, wala ka dito ngayon. Siguro magulo ang mundo and I'm sure hindi ka nakakapag basa ng blog kasi wala kang love sa pagbabasa ng blog o di naman kaya hindi nauuso ang blog kasi walang love sa pagsusulat at paglikha ng mga kung anong bagay na galing sa puso ang mga tao. Pangit din naman kung puro isip lang ang paiiralin at walang pakiramdam o damdamin diba? Ah basta alam mo na yun. Gets mo na ibig kong sabihin diba? Pag tungkol sa love marami ang nakakarelate sa atin. Marami ang gustong magbahagi ng kanilang karanasan at mga kayang gawin alang alang sa pag-ibig. Intermission number ... Habang ginagawa ko ang post na ito, bigla ba namang tumugtog ang musikang Ballad Pour Adeline. Oh diba saktong sakto sa post na to.  Hindi mo alam ang musikang yan? Hmm.. sabihin na nating pinasikat yan ng programa ni Helen Bela noong nakaraan. Kung hindi mo naman kilala si Helen B...

There is no surefire way to get over an ex boyfriend / girlfriend. When you break up, especially after being together for a long time, it is like losing a part of yourself. Do not fear though - it is not losing a part of yourself, it is just “like” losing a part of yourself. There are a common set of 5 stages of grief that people go through during a breakup:   Denial At this point, you cant believe what has happened and you are most likely overwhelmed by shock - half expecting things to go back to “normal”. Anger / Resentment This is when it gets nasty & you might be inclined to do or say things that you will regret to the other person. You blame the other person for causing the situation or wasting years of your life, or being so difficult. In many ways those things are necessary because essentially fighting with each other and causing hurt makes the break up easier to comprehend for each person. Bargaining Im not quite sure that this is next after ang...

 Ang pag-ibig ay hindi lang tungkol sa pagtuklas ng ka-swak mo, kundi kung pano makabuo ng isang masaya at mabuting relasyon. Hindi ito tungkol sa kung gaano mo kamahal ang isang tao, kundi kung paano mo payabungin at itaguyod ang inyong pag-iibigan hanggang sa katapusan. Ang relasyon ay dapat masaya, may pagmamahal, pag-aalaga, habang tumatagal ay mas lalong tumitibay, at higit sa lahat positibo. Ang pagmamahal sa isang relasyon ay dapat nagdudulot ng ngiti at kinang sa buhay. Simula sa araw na ito, piliin mong i-kontrol ng maayos ang relasyon ng iyong kapareha para sa  masayang pagsasama. Maari mong tingnan ang listahan sa ibaba at sundin kung sa tingin mo ay nararapat para sa inyo. I. Tandaan na ang bawat Tao at Relasyon ay magkaiba.  Kadalasan nabibihag ang ating puso ng isang tao kapag ang sa tingin natin ay kakaiba siya sa lahat. Yung tipong walang kapareha. Natatangi. Hindi tayo perpekto para sa lahat. Perpekto lang tayo dun sa mga taong nagbigay sa a...

I had a dinner with a very close friend of mine who experienced a failed relationship. I know how it feels to get hurt and the hard part is on how to let go and move on. Being hurt is not as hard as moving on and letting go. It takes time for someone to forget and just leave everything behind specially if everything you see reminds you of the person. Complete healing takes time. The relationship they had with this person lasted for how many years. I really can't remember how long but they had a on-off relationship. The first time they had a fight and called it quits was because she found out that the person is already committed to someone else. The guy promise to broke up with that person but found herself alone in agony. Sad thing is, because of out of love she still holds on to that promise that they will be together again. And now, finally, she is really willing to let go and move on. Total damage because of being broken hearted can be minimize if in the first place ...

I was reading this old slambook I found on top of the table from one of my friends' house. I noticed that the most common definition they can give about love is "Love is Blind." Is love really blind? I can see that love is being abused in terms of giving out its concrete definition. And most of the time, people who used it doesn't even know what it means. Totally clueless. I was looking at this postcard posted in the mirror just beside my bed this morning and saw this postcard with the bible verse from 1 John 4:8 - God is love . Then this logic came to me which is related to the statement: Love is blind. God is Love. Therefore, God is blind. It make sense now? This means every time we say love is blind, it means God is also blind which is non-sense. God sees things the and He sees everything. So as love sees more and not less. Loves is not blind, it sees with great clarity. It can see things that the normal vision can't see. Love sees the ...

I never imagined I would write a letter to you. I thought that my last letter and words was the time that we agreed to part our ways. I thought life would be easier without you and by just merely accepting everything will let my love for you die a natural death. However, everytime I resist and ignore my feelings, it becomes stronger everyday. I felt hopeless and weak everytime it hits me for I know for sure that in the end I am the looser and you again won. I know I should'nt feed this feeling anymore since we both know that this will lead us to nothingness. The feeling of hoping and dreaming but failed in the end will always be the result of my stubborness.  Let me just tell you straight that lately my feelings is really acting weird. At times I realized, what If I fought for you and that I didn't give up just like that. What If I didn't agree on the idea that we will never be together again. What If I said "No", when you said goodby...

"Hon, anong problema bakit ang tahimik mo simula nung umalis tayo sa bahay ng Mama mo?" Tanong ni Regan habang nagmamaniho pauwi. Tinitigan lang ni Joyce ang asawa ng ilang sigundo at bumalik ang tingin nito sa daan habang bakas parin ang pagkainis nito sa asawa. "Hon, sumagot ka naman. Hindi ko alam kung ano ang ginawa ko para di mo ako kausapin".  Tanong nito ulit sa asawa. Muling tumitig si Joyce sa asawa. Sa pagkakataong ito ay bakas na sa kanyang mukha ang pagkapikon sa asawa. Ilang oras pa ang lumipas ay hindi parin nagsasalita si Joyce. Pagdating sa bahay habang nasa hagdanan paakyat sa kanilang apartment ay muling nagtanong si Ryan sa asawa kung ano ang dahilan at bakit parang ayaw siyang kausapin ng asawa. "Baby, ano ba ginawa ko sayo at ayaw mo akong kausapin. Simula nung umalis tayo sa bahay ng Mama moay parang iritang irita ka na sa akin. Ano ba ginawa ko at nasabi ko at nagkakaganyan ka?"  May kasamang inis na sa...

Inimbitahan ni Adonis ang kanyang ina sa kanyang apartment for a dinner. Habang nasa hapag kainan ay hindi maalis ang tingin ng ina sa roomate ni Adonis na si Angelo. May kunting pagdududa ang ina sa totoong relasyon ng dalawa. Naniniwala ang kanyang ina na mahigit pa sa isang roomate ang turingan ng dalawa. Buong magdamag na binantayan ng ina ang bawat usapan at galaw ng dalawa. Malakas ang kutob ng ina na may ugnayan nga sila. Napansin ni Adonis ang pagdududa ng ina kaya't inunahan na niya ito. "Alam ko ang nasa isip mo. Pero sinisigurado ko na walang namamagitan sa aming dalawa ni Angelo". Pag amin nito sa Ina. "Ok. Sabi mo eh. Wala naman sa akin yun". Sagot ng Ina. Makalipas ang ilang linggo ay lumapit si Angelo kay Adonis at sinabing, "Adonis, simula nung bumisita ang Nanay mo dito sa apartment ay may napansin akong nawawala ang gunting natin. Kanina ko pa hinahanap pero di ko makita. Hindi naman sa nambibintang...

Hiram Kay Kuya Google I called my Mom the other day telling her that I will be going home this coming October 21st for a very short vacation with my office mates. We had a very short conversation that leads me to think about my future. After I told her about my unplanned vacation, we then have these conversation below.  She asked... "Kamusta ka na? Ano na balita sayo? May girlfriend ka na ba dyan or kasama sa buhay?" Being away from my family for almost 6 years now probably makes my Mom wonder If I am already committed with someone. I am not that open to my parents when it comes to relationships. With her question I replied with a laugh... Then he continued by asking me... "Wala ka pa rin bang girlfriend? Kahit fling wala? Mag fling ka naman". With those words coming from my Mom, my laugh becomes louder than the first. I then told her. "Importante pa ba yun? Masaya pa naman ako kahit single ako eh. Saka ko na siguro iisi...

I was cleaning my mailbox (a literal box full of old mails I got from friends and loved ones) when  I saw my old notebook and read this old poem I wrote down many years ago. Wow, Its amazing how puppy love inspired me to write such poem. Ngayon hindi ko na magawa. Lol. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I feel col As time goes old Things change so fast Everything won't last I hold your hand They crumble to pieces of sand And as I stroke your hair I know, you won't dare to care A pain I felt Things that love dealt And it left me bleeding Slowly goes to my brain, creeping As I hug you tight I feel and see no light And as I kiss your lips I no longer feel loves depth Why do I feel That your heart is sealed You have left me behind And done it without any sign Now, as I pull you close Your hands drop loose And as I ask for love You shrug and said I no longer have As I see loves bitter end Torture and pain you've send It leaves no direction To my very evol...

Isang letter sender ang bibigyan ng kaukulang pansin dito sa Return to Sender. Isang babaeng nais bigyan ng second chance ang lalaking minahal niya ng buong buhay at tapat. Isang pag iibigan na humantong sa hiwalayan dahil sa "third party". Sa tingin nyo dapat pa bang bigyan ng second chance si lalaki? Naniniwala ka bang sa katagang "Love is sweeter the second time around?". Basahin natin ang liham ni Ms. Second Chance Hopeful -----------------------------------------------{-@ From: Second Chance Hopeful To: zxander316@gmail.com Date: August 31, 2011 Subject: Is Love sweeter the Second time Around? Dear Xandero, May matinding tanong po ako sa inyo. Naniniwala po ba kayo sa second chance? Like yung tipong magkakabalikan pa kayo ng ex-lover mo? Ikaw po ba kung may ex ka at nagkaroon ng moment na magkaayos kayo babalikan mo pa?  Weird po ng tanong ko noh? Pero kasi yung ex ko gusto makipagbalikan sa akin. Ehh Im scared na baka mangyari...

I posted the line above last week in my Facebook wall after what happened at work last Friday morning.  At exactly 5AM last Friday, August 12, 2011 my boss called up for an emergency meeting. I really do not have any idea what to talked about since there is no issue or anything from the past few weeks or months at work. The work that we have seems really smooth. Anyways, just to give you a short background I am working in a KPO (Knowledge Process Outsourcing) company here in the country. Lets just named it as Company B. I've been with Company B for 3 months now. I am working as an HRIS (Human Resource Information System) Specialist. We are the pioneering team in Manila and our counterpart is based in New York, USA. We have a great team and as I can see it we have a great working relationship with our bosses in New York.Within 3 months the transition and training works just fine. Going back to the meeting.. So our boss call a meeting inside a very private room. I can s...