Call Me Xander

  There will come a time in your life when you will fall short of your goals. When you'll face disappointment, failure and the pain that comes with it. And when that time comes, remember this: failure isn't the end. It's simply a chance to start anew. Accepting your failures is not a sign of weakness, but rather an act of courage. It takes strength to face your shortcomings and to learn from them. It takes resilience to rise up after a setback and keep pushing forward. So don't be afraid to fail, because failure is a teacher. It shows us what doesn't work and gives us the opportunity to try something new. Embrace your failures, for they will make you stronger, wiser, and more resilient. Stand up strong and keep moving forward, because the journey to success is not always easy. But remember, it's not about how many times you fall, it's about how many times you get back up. Keep going, keep pushing, and never give up on your dreams. Success may be just around ...

Remember when you were a kid? Your biggest worry was, like, if you get a new shirt or a brand new shoes on your birthday or if your parents give you your one weeks "baon" or just enough for a day. Or your only focus is just to play and play harder.  Being an adult? Totally overrated.  I mean seriously, most of us are fooled by fancy clothes, red shoes, brand new car, credit cards, late night parties, great sex, and the no parents telling you what to do and what not to do thingy.  Adulthood is responsibility.  This letter R really sucks. Really, really sucks.  As adults, we need to do things to survive. We need to earn a living to pay our monthly rental. If you are a teacher, educating little ones means you are shaping the future of our nation by molding this little ones into a better adult in the future. Talk about responsibility. As an HR person, holding employees personal and confidential information is a big responsibility, hello? ...

Alam mo yung nadamay ka lang dahil sa palpak na nagawa ng ibang tao. Yung nadali ka dahil sa may maling ginawa ang kasama mo sa trabaho. Pak one pak ol. Yung hindi ka naman talaga dapat kasama sa pagagalitan, pero since pinagalitan yung isang ka-team mo. Pinagalitan na din kayong lahat. Alam mo yung isang tao lang ang dapat makarinig ng masasakit na salita pero nakadinig ka pa din ng masasakit na salita dahil nasa isang room lang kayo, at para hindi rin masyadong obvious na siya lang ang pinaparinggan. Yung  dapat may overtime sana kayong lahat, pero since yung isang kasama mo eh ang lakas mag-OT pero wala namang ginagawang trabaho. Walang output. Damay ka sa policy na hindi pwedeng mag-OT nang hindi nagpapaalam kahit dati walang paalam na nangyayari. Wasak ang kumikitang kabuhayan. Alam mo yung, hindi ka dapat kasama sa nahold-up pero since nakasakay ka din sa jeep na hinohold-up, eh damay ka na. Yung isang kasamahan mo sa trabaho naiin...

Yes! That's the famous line noong panahon ni Marcos...yung time na pinatalsik na siya ni Cory. But I won't talk anything about what happened many years ago. It's all in the past. Sabi nga ng nakararami, lets move on and move forward. Nangyari na ang nangyari kaya wag na natin balikan. Gets? Pero bakit karamihan sa atin ay mas gustong balikan ang nakaraan kesa puntahan ang bukas. Mas marami ang gusto na manatili na lang sa alaala ng kahapon kesa salubungin ang magandang umaga. At mas marami sa atin ang mas gustong balikan ang nakaraan kahit nasasaktan kesa harapin ang bukas na puno ng pag-asa.  Wag na tayong lumayo, kadalasan nangyayari ito kapag ang isang tao ay umiibig. Diba kapag mahal na mahal natin ang isang tao ayaw natin mawalay sa kaniya. Kapag sa tingin mo ay sa kanya naikot ang mundo mo ay ayaw mo nang kumawala sa sumpa na dulot ng pagmamahal ng sobra. Ang tanong eh, kailangan ba talaga sa kanya umikot ang mundo mo? Pano na ang mundo kung saan ikaw ay...

Kung ang bigat ng mundo ay 5.972E24 kg at idagdag mo pa ang bigat ng mga tao na nakatira dito, mga nasa 316 million tons ang bigat ng lahat ng adults sa mundo o 633 billion pounds.  Yung 16.5 millions tons ay mga overweight, ayun sa World Health Organization. Ngayon, idagdag mo pa ang bigat ng yung loob dahil sa problema na sa tingin mo ay nagpapahirap sayo at dahil sa bigat ng loob mo ay dinamay mo pa ang ibang tao... Kaya mo pa kayang pasanin ang mundo? Well, unang-una... GINUSTO MO YAN! Bawat isa sa atin ay may kinakaharap na problema. Ikaw, ako, kahit sinong nilalang ay may inisip at hinaharap na suliranin. Kahit pa yung asong nasa kalye ay namomroblema sa kung ano ang kakainin niya. Kaya nga siguro may asong baliw o ulol dahil sa nawalan na sila ng ulirat sa dami ng problema nila.  NGUNIT, nasa sayo din yan kung hahayaan mo lang na pasanin mo ang daigdig na puno ng problema. Hindi ito nauubos... Pero ang pasensya at lakas ng tao kunting kunti l...

Larawan kuha sa Palawan Noong nakaraang weekend, tulog lang ang ginawa ko. Mahigit 24 oras ata ang tulog ko nun. Bumabangon lang kapag nakaramdam ng gutom at matutulog na naman kapag dinalaw ng katamaran at antok. Minsan bumabangon na lang ako na pagod at umiiyak. Karaniwan na sa akin ang ganung eksena. Minsan naman ay humihingal ako dahil sa masamang panaginip na kesyo hinahabol ako ng mga zombie o di kaya naman ay may humahabol sa akin at lumilipad ako pero ang baba lang ng lipad ko.  Pero noong nakaraang weekend kakaiba ang karanasan ko. Akalain mo ba namang dalawang beses akong nanaginip sa isang tulugan. Magkasunod. Yung una nakakatakot. Yung pangalawa light lang.  Hindi ko maintindihan kung ano nga ba talaga ang dahilan ng panaginip natin. Naalala ko noong nasa kolehiyo ako, maraming mga Psychologist ang may sariling interpretasyon sa mga panaginip natin gaya na lang ni Sigmund Frued, Carl Jung, Calvin Hall, Ann Faraday, Wallace and Jean Dalby Cliff, at m...

Larawan kuha sa Pangasinan Habang binibilang ang natitirang araw bago matapos ang taon naisip ko maraming pagsubok at pangyayari ang dumaan sa buhay ko.  Sampung buwan... Sampung buwan na din ang dumaan, mahigit sampung pangyayari na din ang naranasan ko. May masasaya at may malulungkot. Pakiramdam ko sa bawat lungkot ay may nawala sa pagkatao ko, materyal na bagay man o hindi. Sa bawat saya ay nadadag-dagan ang pagkatao ko. Maraming nawala; bagay, kalusugan, pagkabata, mga pangakong nakalimutan, minsan din ay ang karapatan. Ngunit may mga bagay na hindi pwedeng mawala sa ating pagkatao hanggat hindi natin hinahayaan ang iba na kunin sa atin ito: A. Nararamdaman/Tingin sa Sarili. Hindi mahalaga ang kung anong sinasabi ng ibang tao tungkol sa pagkatao mo. May dahilan kung bakit tayo andito sa mundo, yan ay ang pag diskubre sa kung ano ang kakayahan mo bilang ikaw. Mahirap mabuhay sa utos at dikta ng iba.  B. Sariling Pananaw. Bawat isa sa atin ay ma...

Sa aking pagpapatuloy ng pagiging positive sa buhay. Isa sa pinanghahawakan ko ay ang tiwala sa Panginoon. Alam niyo, kahit na anong pagsubok sa buhay malalampasana natin kapag tayo ay may paniniwala at relasyon sa Maykapal. Higit sa anong uri man ng relasyon ay kailangan natin ang Panginoon. Gaya ng sabi ko, kahit anong pagsubok man ang ating pagdaanan dapat tayo magpasalamat. Ngunit aminin natin na minsan hindi maiiwasan na nalulungkot tayo. Hindi natin hawak ang buhay at ang bukas. Kaya kapag nalungkot ka, tandaan mo lang na may isang gustong makinig sayo. Para maipagpatuloy ang pagiging masaya minsan kailangan din natin ng lakas na galing sa kanya. Kaya kapag malungkot ka at nahihirapan, ibigay mo lang lahat sa kanya. Magiging masaya ang buhay mo. Kaya ang card na ito ay pinapadala ko sa lahat ng mambabasa ng blog na to at mga mahal ko sa buhay na sana wag tayong bumitiw agad at magtiwala lang. Masaya ang mabuhay... Cast all your cares on HIM, for he cares for ...

          Marami sa atin ang naghangad na magkaroon ng tunay na kaibigan. Maliban sa pamilya ang mga kaibigan ang isa sa mga tinatakbuhan ng karamihan sa atin sa tuwing magkakaron tayo ng problema. Sila yung mga taong matatawag natin na pangalawang pamilya o di kaya ay mga kapatid natin sa ibang ama/ina. Gaya ko marami ng dumaan sa buhay ko na tinawag kong tapat na kaibigan. Mangilan-ngilan na din ang nagsabi na kabigan nila ako, ganun din ako sa kanila. Madali akong magtiwala sa isang tao lalong lalo na kung naramdaman ko ang integridad o katapatan. Ilang beses na dni akong nasaktan dahil sa sobrang tiwala na binigay ko sa isang "kaibigan" ngunit sa bandang huli ay nagiging parte lang sila ng aking nakaraan at hindi ang hinaharap. Yung parang dumaan lang sila sa buhay ko para magbigay kulay at maging bahagi nito sa maikling panahon. Nangangarap tayo na may isa o dalawang tao tayong makakasama sa kahit anong pagdaanan natin sa buhay malib...

borrowed from Mr. Google. Lately, my life has been a roller coaster. There have been instances that my faith has been blocked by the situation I was into. I learned a lot from the past experiences and overcome difficulties. As I look back on what had happened in my life for the past 6 months, I can say that I failed in certain aspect but gained victory on the other. That is life's reality, no cannot always get what you wanted. However, life needs to move on. And as we move on we always keep the lessons we have from the past as a shield to our future.  Let me give you a quick rundown of the things that I always keep in mind for me to stay focus. #1 - Happiness and Success are two different things. A friend of mine is making thousands of pesos last year and up to this day she is earning big bucks. She invested a lot of things and saved enough money in the bank. We really admired her for being so successful in terms of work and how she achieved in life. But guess ...

Occasionally, everyone tell lies. Some white lies save relationship, some save us from a very dangerous situation, some white lies buy us time. It's a human instinct to commit white lies because this is our easy way out. To some, the world becomes a better place to live because of our white lies.  White lie is acceptable to others as long as they did not hurt anybody and didn't break any law. It's not good to lie as this will reflect our personality. Whether a black lie or a white lie, its still a lie.  Below are common white lies people tell and why we tell them: I'm almost there! - Because I cannot tell you that I just woke up and still at home. This might freak you out. Thank you so much! I just love it! - Because we might hurt someone's feeling if we tell them the truth that their gift sucked and that we will be called as an insensitive jerk. I'm 18. - Because telling your 18 makes you feel younger even if your looks doesn't tell you. I...

According to Mae West, "We only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.  I committed a lot of mistakes in the past. I can do it all over again but it doesn't mean  I'm a failure. I have so many decisions that didn't work the way I wanted it to be. But that's fine. I always reminded myself with these things: 1. I follow my intuition and heart.  I led by my dreams and not by my problems. I always make sure that whatever is in my heart, I follow it. I am just being me. If I fail because of that decision, then I will try again. If I fail again, I will never give up and will try. At least at the end of the day, I will not wonder what could have been if I didn't follow whats in my heart.  2. I am proud of myself I am my own bestfriend and my own biggest critic. Regardless of what other people are saying about me, at the end of the day the only reflection that I can see in the mirror staring back at me is myself. I appreciate everythin...

 Ang pag-ibig ay hindi lang tungkol sa pagtuklas ng ka-swak mo, kundi kung pano makabuo ng isang masaya at mabuting relasyon. Hindi ito tungkol sa kung gaano mo kamahal ang isang tao, kundi kung paano mo payabungin at itaguyod ang inyong pag-iibigan hanggang sa katapusan. Ang relasyon ay dapat masaya, may pagmamahal, pag-aalaga, habang tumatagal ay mas lalong tumitibay, at higit sa lahat positibo. Ang pagmamahal sa isang relasyon ay dapat nagdudulot ng ngiti at kinang sa buhay. Simula sa araw na ito, piliin mong i-kontrol ng maayos ang relasyon ng iyong kapareha para sa  masayang pagsasama. Maari mong tingnan ang listahan sa ibaba at sundin kung sa tingin mo ay nararapat para sa inyo. I. Tandaan na ang bawat Tao at Relasyon ay magkaiba.  Kadalasan nabibihag ang ating puso ng isang tao kapag ang sa tingin natin ay kakaiba siya sa lahat. Yung tipong walang kapareha. Natatangi. Hindi tayo perpekto para sa lahat. Perpekto lang tayo dun sa mga taong nagbigay sa a...

As humans, we desire to look good physically. At an early age, maybe three or four, kids are already aware and has consciousness whether they looked good or not. Men in particular, specially those who are unprivileged would die to have the looks of Brad Pitt or maybe Mario Maurer or Sam Milby. Men who are less fortunate spend most of their time at the gym trying to achieve the look that they wanted. While those who are fortunately able, spend their money and undergo plastic surgery and have those looks pasted on theirs. Women on the other hand; wears make up, tight or fit clothes, wear jewelries to attract the opposite sex. For what reasons? One, maybe because that is what society or media is telling them/us to do. Why? Maybe, again, to get women so easily or maybe to attract others with less effort for their own personal gain. I can see that some companies are hiring people because of their "pleasant" appearance. Tsk... Tsk... Tsk.... But bei...

I was reading this old slambook I found on top of the table from one of my friends' house. I noticed that the most common definition they can give about love is "Love is Blind." Is love really blind? I can see that love is being abused in terms of giving out its concrete definition. And most of the time, people who used it doesn't even know what it means. Totally clueless. I was looking at this postcard posted in the mirror just beside my bed this morning and saw this postcard with the bible verse from 1 John 4:8 - God is love . Then this logic came to me which is related to the statement: Love is blind. God is Love. Therefore, God is blind. It make sense now? This means every time we say love is blind, it means God is also blind which is non-sense. God sees things the and He sees everything. So as love sees more and not less. Loves is not blind, it sees with great clarity. It can see things that the normal vision can't see. Love sees the ...

Bakit nga ba masarap ang bawal?  Bakit nga ba karamihan sa atin ay nais tangkain na gawin ang bawal? Bakit nga ba pinagbabawal ang isang bagay kung ito ay masarap? Bakit? Bakit? Bakit nga ba ako nagtatanong patungkol sa bawal? Bakit, bawal bang maisipan ko at mapagtripan ang isulat tungkol sa mga bawal? Hindi naman bawal eh, kaya isusulat ko. Marami sa atin ang nakagawa na ng isang ipinagbabawal na bagay. Aminin man natin o hindi pero halos lahat ata tayo ay nakagawa na ng isang makasalanan bagay. Hindi man ito aktwal o pisikal na nakikita ngunit maaring sa isipan natin ay nakagawa na tayo ng bawal. Naisip ko kasi na bakit ang mga may asawa na ay umaabot pa sa pangangaliwa na alam naman nating lahat na bawal yun sa mata ng Diyos.  Marami ang napariwara dahil sa ang iba ay naingganyo na gawin ang bawal. Maraming pamilya ang nasira dahil sa bawal. May mga kabatang naulol dahil sa bawal, mga buhay na nakitil dahil sa bawal. Maraming bawal na nakakasama sa atin k...

I was washing my clothes this morning and was in a hurry to get it done so I can do other stuff today. I washed those clothes I wear when I go out to a party or special event, those clothes I always wear when I go out with my friends, when I go to church or when having a dinner with someone. As I keep on soaking those clothes in the bucket and squeezing it with my hands so dirt will come out, bubbles also came out every time I squeeze it. I sort of enjoying what I'm doing when a panoramic view of my life started to came out in front of me. One by one, I can clearly remember those scene of my life. There was a scene when I was still a kid trying to play with my siblings, a scene when I was in high school and had my first crush, the time I was broken-hearted, a scene when I started to lie just to keep myself away from trouble. There is also a picture of me trying to make decision which causes more problems in the end. Another scene of me seeing myself hating someone so much that ...

hiram kay manong google.com The past few weeks was one hell of a ride. It was a moment of ups and downs. Been into emotional depression that causes my health to go down and I've been sick for weeks. My faith in God and in myself have been tested. For a time, I forgot who I was. I dont remember anymore the same person I used to be when I was a kid. My purpose disappears and in just one blink of an eye I forgot everything I have been dreaming of. This morning while I was reading the Bible, yes you read it right I read the Bible (did I just mentioned the word read three times in a phrase?..gosh). I was meditating the book of 1 John 1:7 - If we walk in the light, as he is the light... The Blood of Jesus, His Son, purifies us from sin, when a drop of faith reminded me so many things. Suppose a student doing a science project and experiment on the effect of light and darkness on the growth of the seed. The student gets a mung bean from a store and plant it in four Styrofoam cups...

When I woke up this morning and preparing myself for my job interview. I ask God, through my thoughts, if this job is really for me. I ask If He had a better plan for my future. I know I wont get an answer immediately. It takes a while. It's a process. It should start in me. Then I evaluate myself for the past few months about things that I did and accomplished, if any. I always found myself in the middle. You know, I always play safe in everything that I do, always making sure that I am pleasing in the sight of others. But what about God? Did I please Him with what I am doing? I guess not. Maybe thats the reason why I am suffering and encountering problems upon problems because I am always in the middle. I never step out of my comfort zone. I never came out according to what God wants me to be. I am never that strong. Never! Not until now. Today, I am praying for peace of mind and serenity of my heart. Lord, give me the strength that I need for me to move on with life. Give...

Nagising ako sa sinag ng araw na dumampi sa aking mga pisngi. Maganda at maaliwalas ang panahon kaya naisipan kong bumangon ng maaga, magkape at tumambay sa labas ng aming bahay. Dumiretso ako sa isang duyan na tambayan naming magkakapatid noong mga bata pa kami. Habang nakaupo sa duyan at hawak ang isang mainit na tasa ng kape, bumalik sa aking alaala ang panahon ng aking  kamusmusan. Sa mismong duyan na ito nagumpisa ang aming tawanan, kulitan at magdamagang kwentuhan. Minsan sa isang usapan naming magkakapatid natanong ni Mama kung ano ba daw ang pangarap namin sa buhay. Si Kuya nangarap na maging seaman. Ang aking kapatid na babae ay nangarap na maging isang nurse at yung isa naman ay teacher. Ako? Simple lang ang pangarap ko, ang maiahon sa buhay ang aking pamilya, ang matulungan ang aking mga magulang sa gastusin sa pagpapaaral ng bunsong kapatid ko at maibigay sa aking pamilya ang buhay na masagana. Humigop ako ng kaunting kape at humiga sa duyan habang pinagma...