You've Got Mail #2: Silent Reader

This is another email I got from someone whom I'll call Silent Reader. It's interesting to know that lately I've been receiving emails who are asking questions about anything. This one is something serious. I am scared to share my own opinion about this certain topic that Ms. Silent Reader is sharing as I am not in the authority to give out any advise. I am still learning about life, love and other mysteries. However, since I value and love those who follow this blog and read it wholeheartedly, I'll share whatever I have in mind and will give my best and I hope that Ms. Silent Reader will get something out of this.

Medyo may kahabaan po ang post na ito, so pagpasensyahan nyo na po.

Anyways, below is the email of Ms. Silent Reader. Again, personal information like email address and name were changed to keep the identity of the one who sent it private.

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From: Ms. Silent Reader
To: zxander316@gmail.com
Date: Monday, June 20, 2011
Subject: HELP: I'm Scared to Tell my Parents!!!
Psstt... Kuya Xander,


Hello po Kuya. Wonder why I sent you an email with that subject? Wala lang po. Nagpapapansin lang sayo. Joke! Actually, I was just inspired sa blog mo kuya. A lot of good stuff po kasi ang nababasa ko dito eh. Dami kung natutunan sa totoo lang po. I was inspired to write an email dahil dun sa post mo about kay Ms. Coincidence. Naisip ko na like her, I can also share something to you. Pero please promise me na wag mo na lang ilagay sa blog mo. Reply ka na lang po dito para mas ok. Nahihiya po kasi ako eh at baka malaman ng mga kaibigan ko at parents ko. Actually Kuya Xander, you probably know me because you visited my blog many times na po. You always do blogwalking and then left some message dun sa chatbox ko. In fact, you left some comments pa nga dun sa post ko. Nakalimutan ko na po kung ano yun. Actually palagi ko visit blog mo but hindi lang ako nagcocoment.. para silent reader ang drama ko! hehe


Kuya I have something to tell you. Please help me naman.



I am only 17 years old. Studying po dito sa isang private school sa Manila. I have a boyfriend already and my parents doesn't know about it. If they find out baka po hindi na nila ako papaaralin. Ayaw nila kasi na mag boyfriend ako. But I love this guy. He seems to be a decent guy. Ang problema nga lang po is he is older than me. His 29 years old and working in a bank sa Makati. Kuya, ang problema kasi may nangyari na hindi namin ginusto. Alam mo na yun kuya. Ngayon ang dilemma ko eh baka magbunga ang ginawa namin. Natatakot na po ako. Ano po ba dapat kung gawin Kuya? Please help.

Thanks for taking time to read my email.

Ingats!

Ms. Silent Reader

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Dear Ms. Silent Reader,

First of all I want to say thank you for the email. I appreciate the trust and the time you gave for this. Though I really can't remember who are you, unless ibigay mo sa akin ang link mo so I would know. Second, I want to apologize. Sorry sa hindi ko matupad ang kagustuhan mong wag I share ang email mo. You mentioned not to share this in my blog, but I think this is worth sharing. Malay mo, ang message na ito ang maging daan upang makatulong ka din sa iba dahil sa email mo. So please forgive me na. Peace na tayo! Mwah! Don't worry any confidential information will not be devulge. So ok lang!? Kuha mo?!

Alam mo Ms. Silent Reader, hindi ko alam kung paano kita matutulungan sa sitwasyon mo ngayon. I don't know the right words to tell because I am not in your shoe. However, I would like to point out some things that might help you think and decide later on. Ayaw ko kasing magbigay ng isang advise na baka naman in the end mapasama ka pa. Ito'y isang payo bilang isang kapatid, kapamilya at kapuso.

Una, sa edad mo na yan at ganyan ang sitwasyon mo mas mabuti pang magsabi ka na sa mga magulang mo. It's normal that they will feel you betrayed their trust BUT pagbaliktarin mo man ang mundo mga magulang mo pa din sila. Natural na magagalit sila sayo, just accept the consequences of their wrath. Alam mo madaming kabataan ngayon sa mundo na hindi open sa mga magulang nila gaya mo. Lalong lalo na sa sitwasyon mo. Think about the future, what if, just what if you'll find out that nagbunga nga ang ginawa mo? What will you do? Dun mo lang ba sasabihin sa parents mo? Better tell it now, I'm sure later on mapapatawad ka din nila. But lets just hope na wag naman sana magbunga sa maagang panahon. Lets just hope! Hayyy...

Second, what's the stand of your boyfriend about the whole situation? If his willing to take every chances and willing ka naman niya panagutan in the end, then I think walang problema yun. The only question is, if he can stand it till the end. Remember, studyante ka pa lang. So I really dont know what's his plan about it. At his age I think, kaya na nya bumuhay ng isang pamilya at sa work pa nya Im sure he can do it. Hopefully matinong tao ang boyfriend mo.

Third, I just want to point out dun sa sinabi mo na may ginaga kayo na hindi nyo gusto. Hindi naman ata ako naniniwala dyan. Kasi bakit mo gagawin ang isang bagay kung hindi mo gusto? You want to do it that's why umabot kayo sa sitwasyon na ganyan. Just accept the fact that you want it. Accept that reality. Its easier for you to move on if you will accept everything. Wag mo na ideny na hindi mo ginusto yan. Ok ba? Peace!

Lastly, Keep praying and trust in the one who created everything--God. If hindi mo pa kaya sabihin sa mga magulang mo. Pray. Ask for guidance and wisdom. People around you can't do anything in your situation. Only God can do miracles and only you can make things happen. Nasa iyong mga kamay ang kinabukasan mo. I just hope and wish that things will turn out alright. I just hope and pray that you will get that courage you need to tell everything to your parents, kasi kung ano man ang mangyari sayo andyan lang ang pamilya mo. They will stick no matter what.

So now Ms. Silent Reader, I hope nakatulong itong pinagsasabi ko sayo. Honestly, mahirap masalita sa mga bagay na ganito. Opinyon ko lang ito. May sarili kang opinyon. You have your own choice. You have free will.

By the way, Thanks! why? Because you made me realized na hindi lang pala ako ang may problema sa mundo. Marami ding tao ang nakaranas ng problema, mas mabigat pa sa dinadala ko. BUT, we need to rejoice and be glad that there is tomorrow and nothing is impossible. Remember that through prayers everything is possible and with you working on every possibilities, anything is possible. As you can see the world "Impossible" starts with "I'm-possible."

Thanks and Goodluck!

Comments

  1. nice suggestion xander.. keep it up

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  2. Nge.. Dito ako magre-react.. "...kasi may nangyari na hindi namin ginusto." That's crap. Ginusto nyo, kaya nangyari.. :)

    Better to focus on your studies muna. You're only 17. Kung inlove ka, inlove ka.. but SET your PRIORITIES. Good am. :)

    P.S.
    Andami mong fanmails Xander. haha.. Ikaw na ang sikat. At parang hindi ka na rin ata marunong magbloghop ngayon? lol

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  3. tunay ba yung 73years old at 85 years old?

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  4. I like your long answer Boyxander parang "Manong Byanong" (ilocano radio station sa amin-ilokandia) hehehe! God bless!

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  5. @Leah - nag blog hop po ako..promise.. hehe

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  6. @bulakbolero - anong 73 at 85 yrs old? heheh

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  7. @LASEER_ Manong Byanong talaga? hahaha

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  8. naku naman! love guru! hehehe

    this is a may-december love affair. pero ang point of view ko, age doesn't matter KAPAG NASA TAMANG EDAD. Sa kaso nya, MINOR!!! so alam na ang aking komento

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  9. Wah! Hindi muna ako makikisawsaw dito dahil may love na kasama ang email. Mamaya na lang. Kakain muna ako ng lomi at buttered toast. Baka pagkatapos non, makisawsaw na ako.

    Agree ako kay Leah. Yung ginawang di daw "ginusto," ginusto yun. Hahaha! Ipinilit pa nga eh.

    We get into our own predicaments because we chose to be there even if it's a conscious choice or not.

    Para kay Ms. Silent Reader, magtapat ka na nga sa parents mo. In the end, mahal ka nun. Simulan sa nanay. :)

    @Bino. Oo nga! Legally, statutory yun. (OMG)

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  10. @Bino-- love guru talaga? hahaha.. lol.. oo nga minor na minor.. hehehe

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  11. @Chad- Tama ka dyan. Statutory talaga hehehe

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  12. hahaha.natuwa ako sa mga sulat su.kaunting kinkiness nalang sana para dear Mr Xerex na and dating .hahaha.joke. at least, that only shows how effective you are as a blogger/writer. cheers to that

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  13. Tama ka Xander. Kung hindi mo gusto ang isang bagay, hindi mo dapat ito gagawin.

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  14. @Pusang Kalye-- Mr Xerer talaga hahaha.. sino yun???

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  15. ehehe .. nakakatuwa aman .. ganda nan opinyon ni kuya xander ! ahe .. saludo ho ako sa inyo ^__^ .. Agree din ako ! Nothing is impossible with God .. at si God ang Solusyon sa lahat .. Just trust .. Keep and strengthen your faith ms.silent reader :))) God bless ^_^

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  16. @Jay Rulez -- haha oo pumapayo na ako.. magpapapayo ka ba? ano?

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  17. sorry ha pero critic na kung critic...

    HE IS A DECENT GUY?!!! WALANGGJJOOO!! decent guy would not touch you lalo na sa age mo..how old 17?!!! !$#%$^%& sorry for d manners pero sasabihin mong di NYO ginusto?!! walang bagay na mangyayari kung di mo talaga gugustuhin in d 1st place! duuh?!!

    well kung mahal ka talaga nun at kung ano man mangyari kung magkakabunga man yan sa sinasabi mong di sinasadya...well good for you! pero kung hindi....sorry nalang din...you have to face d consequences.

    dear, hindi kita tinatakot but it's d REALITY! dapat handa ka sa mangyayari...

    ps: xander sensya na carried away ako....nakarelate kasi ako...pero not like her..ginusto ko..namin.. and i was only 17 also when i got married....

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  18. @iya_khin - hmm may point ka dyan. Pero naisip ko baka ang ibig niya sabihin na hindi nila ginusto na maging preggy siya at an early age or as early as this? Pero ewan ko..

    Ako po ay nanawagan sa letter sender na ito na mag email ulit sa akin kung ano man ang mangyari ng ilang linggo. Hehehe.. Salamat po!

    Bow!

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  19. A minor is still a minor.. it's a crime to have intercourse even if you are permitting it. In your case, the guy should be in jail. Exag pero if he knew you were 17 he really should be sent to jail. Hindi biro yan. Coming from a guy's POV its really fun to have S**, anytime, anywhere, whoever it may be.. niloko ka na nya sa una pa lang because pumatol sya sayo. You are called a minor therefore you must abide by the things your folks implement at home, dahil palamunin ka pa lang at wala pang nalalaman sa totoong buhay... don't be stupid and do the right thing, stay away from this guy and don't ever do whatever you did. Tell your folks too. sorry, that's the truth and I just had to say that.

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  20. @Kumagcow- ayy tama ka dyan! minority report talaga sya. Pero kinabahan ako sa jail na yan which is very true naman. Bata pa nga naman tlaga. Sana mabasa yan ng kanyang boyfriend at nang matauhan. Im sure nababa ito ngayon ni Ms. Silent Reader.

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